Easy Sex Positions
Sex can be exciting and intimidating at the same time, and for beginners, it is a stellar combination of the two. Some sex positions are easier than others, while others are more popular amongst more experimental couples. Below are some easy sex positions for you to try out:
The missionary position is arguably the most popular and common method of having sex among first-timers. While in this position, the woman usually lies down on her back, and the man climbs on top of her. Although it is popularly considered a very 'plain vanilla' position, there are certain things that the woman can do here.
She can try the elevated missionary position by wrapping her legs around the man, spreading her legs very wide, positioning her vagina much more upward than normal by placing a pillow beneath her pelvis or putting her legs on the shoulders of the man. These variations make a huge difference in the overall depth and angle of penetration.
2. Woman on Top
This position, which is also known as the cowgirl position, involves the woman sitting on the man and riding him from the top. Unlike what happens in the missionary position, the woman retains complete control of all the movements.
Here, she can control the depth and angle of penetration. That being said, most women lose their virginity while being in the missionary position. Women who opt for the cowgirl continue with missionary until the act becomes less painful and more pleasurable.
3. Doggy style
True to its name, here, the woman kneels down on all fours while the man penetrates her from behind. This position provides for deeper penetration of the vagina. However, the first few times may be painful for the woman.
4. On a Chair
The chair position is also known as the 'lap position.' This position involves the man normally sitting on a chair (which should preferably be without armrests) while the girl slowly lowers herself onto his penis right from the top.
In this position, both the participants are facing each other and are in a position to decide the length and depth of penetration, which can provide a lot of leverage to both of them.
Pro Tips and Tricks for Satisfying a High Sex Drive
1. It Is Important to Try Out New Things
Along with trying out various new positions, it's very important to keep your mind open to new things such as mutual masturbation, sex toys, BDSM, watching porn together, or even role-play, if you're into it. Things like blindfolds are great to start with. Experts say that when one sense is cut off, the others get automatically heightened.
2. You Should Try to Get 'on Top'
According to some experts, the partner with the greater sex drive should be willing to get on top. If your partner isn't as aroused as you are, then they may not be very willing to get on top, and asking an already tired person to carry out all the grunt work in bed will likely lead to dissatisfaction in the future.
3. Don't Be Afraid to Ask for Oral Sex
Last but not least, oral sex can be a very good option if one partner isn't as aroused as the other but still wants to enjoy sex. While they shouldn't be forced if they're not in the mood, they can always be asked first. However, experts caution that this will not be the case every single time since a person who is too tired to have sex can be unwilling to have oral sex as well.
At the end of the day, satisfying sex in any form is important. Satisfying sex will always look different for everyone, and couples who possess high sex drives might need to experiment to determine what works out for them.
As they say, one should always be open to new ideas. If you never try, you'll never know, so be open to new things and have fun. At the end of the day, sex is all about feeling the closeness of each other and feeling physically and emotionally connected.
- John Launer, November 2009; A beginner's guide to sex - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19892899/
- J Abma, January 1998; Young women's degree of control over first intercourse: an exploratory analysis - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9494810/